Sis. Kim Stone
Kim Stone was born in raised in Texarkana, Texas. She has been immensely involved in church since a young age. She started leading worship at the age of ten and led her first 100 voice choir at the age of fifteen. She accompanied her father, Bill Henry, traveling all over the United States working in the music industry. Her dad passed away when she was only sixteen years old, a vital time in her life. Kim married the love of her life, Dee, in 1996. They have four girls: Kelsey, Kenzie, Kyley, and Kinlie. I met Kim when they moved to our church in Plainview in 2005. Today, Kim is the worship leader, and she and Dee serve as Youth Pastors. They were also recently elected to serve as National Youth Directors of the A.B. of C.
What is a piece of advice that has affected your life?
My dad always said, “Stay Humble.” No matter what you do in your life, God will be the one to exalt you. I try to stay humble in everything I do, whether it is work or something spiritual. Being humble doesn’t mean being a door mat. There is a difference. It doesn’t mean that you allow people to take advantage of you or take your voice. You don’t have to prove yourself to people either; God will do that. It has been proven true in my life that if I stay humble, God will exalt me.
What is a great piece of advice you were given as a mother?
Take time for yourself. It really was the best advice I have ever received concerning being a mother. As a mom, it has always been important for me to take time for myself. I want to give my all to my kids, but I can’t do that if I don’t take the time I need for myself and even for my husband.
Is there a boundary in your life that is non-negotiable?
The one that keeps coming to my mind is I do not allow R-rated or horror movies in my house. I don’t want to invite that into my house. We always try to monitor what we let in our house through the TV anyway, but I think it’s just a different line that you cross when you allow R-rated things to be viewed. This may sound crazy, but I even know if my kids have watched something like that without me knowing. It’s like God would just wake me up, and I could feel it.
What scripture have you stood on in your life or has meant the most to you?
The one that I have stood on is 2 Timothy 1:7. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. I have literally had to stand on it my whole life. I am a very fearful person. I’ve always been fearful of death, the unknown, and losing everything. As a child I dealt with fear; it tormented me at night. My pastor’s wife first introduced me to that scripture, I believe when I was 12 years old. Every night before I went to bed, I would quote that scripture over and over. It really helped me be able to sleep and control my thoughts in order to rest. Even to this day, I still quote it to myself often.
Where do you pray? What are your study habits?
I pray in my bathroom. It’s the only place where I can escape and be away in the quiet. I have found that He often talks back there. I pray in my car as well when I am driving back and forth to work. My car is also the place where I listen to YouTube songs/preaching and podcasts. As far as studying goes, I normally study in the mornings. I use the youversion Bible app and search different plans and follow them, but I read elsewhere as well. When summertime rolls around, I have to make myself stay in routine and study in the morning, even though I don’t have to be up for school.
What do you think makes a strong woman, and is there a woman who embodies that quality to you?
A strong woman knows who she is in Christ. She doesn’t let comparison steal her joy. She doesn’t compare herself to other people’s gifts, titles, or ministry. She doesn’t seek to become something she is not or yearn for something she doesn’t have. Comparison will deplete you and make you fall. If she knows who she is and the calling that God has placed on her life, she is strong. When things are thrown at her (spiritual or secular), she doesn’t crumble. She finds purpose in every trial. She knows who she is and to whom she belongs. She understands that God made her a certain way and put her where she is for a purpose. A strong woman lives on purpose. My mom is a strong woman in my life. She embodies everything that I want to be. She deals with every situation thrown at her with such strength and class. Even when my dad passed away, she never let her emotions get the best of her. I believe I never saw her cry but once when he passed. When I put myself in the position that she was in, I don’t believe I would’ve been able to do it. I’m surrounded by people who could help me through it, but she wasn’t. She had her pastor and pastor’s wife, and that was just about it. She dealt with everything with such strength and grace. I look at her, even now, and all I can think is wow. She never lets anything get the best of her, she knows who she is, and she truly lives with purpose and on purpose.
Do you make free time for yourself? If you have free time what do you do?
Yep, absolutely. I like to take baths. I love to sit on my couch and drink coffee without the TV on. I have a strange obsession with watching YouTube videos about tornadoes. I am fascinated by tornadoes. I am an official storm spotter and love to watch storms. Something about storms is calming to me. Give me a good ole cup of coffee and a nice storm, and I’ll be happy.
Besides Christianity and marriage, what was the best decision you ever made?
Making the move to come to church at Plainview. When we were looking for a church, we decided we would visit three churches and then decide. The first church we attended was Plainview, and we knew then that’s where we belonged. I remember Sis. Betty Kay greeting me at the door with a huge hug like I was her long lost relative. Plainview not only gave us a good, strong church for my kids to grow up in, but it propelled us into a ministry that I thought we would never be in. I would’ve never thought that we would be youth pastors. Because of the things that we had gone through in our past, in my mind it wasn’t even an option. But God showed off and said, “I’m going to use your past and make you a better minister because of it.”
Was there a season in your life that contributed to your strength?
Everything that I’ve gone through has contributed to my strength in one way or another. Whether it was circumstances that were out of my control, like my Dad passing at an early age, or if it was something in my past that I learned and grew from, everything has had a hand in building my strength. Every season that I have walked through has given me an assurance in Christ. There is no doubt in my mind that God will see me through whatever may come my way because He has done it so many times before.
Strong women know God’s word.
Kim Stone has been a part of my life since I was a little girl. She has helped me navigate through some big decisions in my life. I can say of Kim, she is a woman of faith. She completely believes God and trusts in Him. She is sensitive to His spirit and voice. On another note, she may not be the best cook, but she is the best cleaner. She also has a small obsession with cool shoes (ask her about her crayon shoes or her lip heels.) She is a coffee and Friends (the TV show) addict.
Kim, like most of the other women, said strong women know who they are in Christ. This phrase has been reoccurring throughout this series. Strong women don’t compare themselves to other women, but they are confident in who God created them to be. The gifts God has given you, the trials you have walked through, and the position God has placed you in are all on purpose. Not to be used to gloat or compare, but to edify and add to the body of Christ.
For the final day of the strong women series, I challenge you to ask yourself the questions I’ve asked all the other women. It’s important that we make time to evaluate ourselves and reflect. Strong women know they didn’t get to the place where they are on accident. Today, thank the strong women in your life. The women who were an example for you and poured into your life. Strong women need strong women. We are better together.